The Gap and The Gain and Gary Vee.

If you haven't read "The Gap and The Gain" by Dan Sullivan with Benjamin Hardy, you're really missing out. What I love about this book, is that even though I read it over a year ago, I can still pull truth nuggets from it to share with other people.

At my mastermind group, I shared two things I truly believe in:

 You can't live in the gap

and

Stop doing junk you hate.

So, what does this have to do with this book and Gary Vaynerchuk?

People have been conditioned to live in the gap by doing junk they hate. It's true. They've been told that they have to work on the stuff they're not good at so they can be better at them.

Instead of focusing on what they've accomplished, even the minuscule improvement they've had (hey, forward movement is still forward movement) they look at all they haven't done and beat themselves up for it. The same is true for doing junk you hate.

You do that junk because you believe if you get better at it, you're going to be a better person, a better entrepreneur, a better...whatever.

Here's the secret though: you hate it. You will always hate. You're not going to get better at it because you hate it. SO STOP DOING IT.

It was freeing to hear Gary Vee talk about this concept so many years ago. I truly believed at the time that I needed to "improve" the things I wasn't good at it. I'm not good at this? I'll take a class. I'm not good at that? I'll attend a webinar. The problem is that I am not GOOD at the things I am not good at because I DO NOT like to do them. I was wasting so much time trying to improve I was losing sight of the things I AM GOOD at.

When I stopped focusing on those things, started focusing on what I can do, and got HELP for the things I am not good at i.e. finding someone who could do those things for me - my business and my mindset improved.

So cheers to you, gentle reader. 1) For making it this far and 2) for being a badass at whatever it is that you're doing that helped you get here.